In the Absence of the Village, Mothers Struggle Most. Dear Mothers,I’m writing you today because I can no longer contain the ache in my gut and fire in my heart over an injustice that you and I are bearing the brunt of. Though this injustice is affecting everyone — men, women, and children alike — mothers not only feel its burden more than most, but we also feel disproportionately responsible for alleviating its pervasive and deeply damaging symptoms, which is adding hugely to the weight of the world we’re already wired to carry. The injustice is this: It takes a village, but there are no villages. By village I don’t simply mean “a group of houses and associated buildings, larger than a hamlet and smaller than a town, situated in a rural area.” I’m referring to the way of life inherent to relatively small, relatively contained multigenerational communities. Communities within which individuals know one another well, share the joys, burdens, and sorrows of everyday life, nurture one another in times of need, mind the wellbeing of each other’s ever- roaming children and increasingly- dependent elderly, and feel fed by their clearly essential contribution to the group that securely holds them. I’m talking about the primary unmet need driving the frustration that most every village- less mother is feeling. Though the expression “It takes a village to raise a child” has become clich. It’s wreaking havoc on our quality of life in countless ways. In the absence of the village. Our priorities become distortedand unclear as we attempt to meet so many conflicting needs at once. We feel less safe and more anxious without the known boundaries, expectations and support of a well- known group of people with whom to grow. We’re forced to create our tribes during seasons of our life when we have the least time and energy to do so. ![]() We tend to hold tight to our ideals and parenting paradigms, even when doing so divides us, in an attempt to feel safer and less overwhelmed by so many ways and options. Our children’s natural way of being is compromised, as most neighborhoods and communities no longer contain packs of roaming children with whom to explore, create, and nurture their curiosity. We run around like crazy trying to make up for the interaction, stimulation and learning opportunities that were once within walking distance. We forget what “normal” looks and feels like, which leaves us feeling as if we’re not doing enough, or enough of the “right” things.
Zhenya up front you have made it clear that what you have written is an “opinion” which is a good thing as it does not resemble at all my own experience of both. Franklin Roosevelt knew of the Pearl Harbor at least attack 6 weeks before it happened. I had first hand telephone conversations with retired Navy officer Duane. Ye Hai Mohabbatein (English: This Is Love). It first aired on 3 December 2013 and airs from Monday to Saturday at 07:30 pm (22nd. Originally aired on 15 July 2012. Depression and anxiety skyrocket, particularly during seasons of our lives when we instinctively know we need more support than ever but don’t have the energy to find it. We feel disempowered by the many responsibilities and pressures we’re trying so hard to keep up with. We spend money we don’t have on things we don’t need in an attempt to fill the voids we feel. We feel lonely and unseen, even when we’re surrounded by people. Our partnerships are heavily burdened by the needs that used to be spread among communities, and our expectations of loved ones increase to unrealistic levels. We feel frequently judged and misunderstood. We feel guilty for just about everything: not wanting or having time to be our children’s primary playmates, not working enough, working too much, allowing too much screen time in order to keep up with our million perceived responsibilities, etc. We think we’re supposed to be independent, and feel ashamed of our need for others. We make decisions that don’t reflect our values but our deeply unmet needs. Perhaps most tragically of all, the absence of the village is distorting many mothers’ sense of self. ![]() It’s causing us to feel that our inadequacies are to blame for our struggles, which further perpetuates the feeling that we must do even more to make up for them. It’s a trap. A self- perpetuating cycle. A distorted reality that derives its strength from the oppressive mindsets still in place despite our freedoms. Here’s a new mindset to try on for size: You and I are not the problem at all. WE ARE DOING PLENTY. We may feel inadequate, but that’s because we’re on the front lines of the problem, which means we’re the ones being hardest hit. We absorb the impact of a broken, still- oppressive social structure so that our children won’t have to. That makes us heroes, not failures. No, we’re not oppressed in the same ways that we used to be (nor in the ways other women still are around the world), but make no mistake about it: In the absence of the village, we’re disadvantaged like never before. We may have more freedoms than our foremothers, but our burden remains disproportionately, oppressively heavy. ![]() We scrubbed our clothes in the streams while laughing at splashing toddlers and mourning the latest loss of love or life. We wove, sewed, picked, tidied, or mended while swapping stories and minding our aging grandmothers. We tended one another’s wounds (both physical and emotional), relied on one another for strength when times were tough, and sought counsel from our community’s wise, experienced, and cherished elders. Village life inherently fostered a sense of safety, inclusivity, purpose, acceptance, and importance. These essential elements of thriving were built in. We’re being forced to create all of that for ourselves within a society that has physically and energetically restructured itself around a whole new set of priorities. It’s a profits before people model, which threatens the wellbeing of nearly everything we mothers are wired to protect. Though I’m optimistic and hopeful by nature, this dilemma has left me discouraged many times over the years. How does an entire nation of mothers shift a storyline this massive while individually and collectively weakened by the absence of the very thing we so desperately need? Major cultural shifts in prioritization, structure, and power are clearly in order (and I do believe they’re happening, however chaotically). In the meantime, each of us has a choice to make: We can buy into, make peace with, and conform to the way things are, or exercise the freedoms our foremothers and fathers won for us and commit to doing our unique and essential part in creating change, starting within us and working our way out. You and I aren’t likely to experience what it’s like to raise children in an actual village, but that’s okay. That’s not what this generation is about. This generation is about waking up to who we really are and what we really want, and resetting society’s sails accordingly. Playing your part in the re- villaging of our culture starts with being wholly, unapologetically, courageously YOU. Here are a few tangible steps you can take whenever you’re ready: Get really clear on one thing: the fact that you’re struggling is not a reflection of your inadequacies, but the unnatural cultural circumstances you’re living within. Own and honor your needs. Most mothers are walking around with several deeply unmet needs of their own while focusing almost exclusively on the needs of others. This is precisely the thing that keeps us from gaining traction and improving our circumstances, both individually and collectively. Practice vulnerability. Rich, safe, authentic connection is essential for thriving. Cultivating this quality of connection takes courage, and a willingness to step outside your comfort zone. What you want most exists on the other side of that initial awkward conversation or embarrassing introduction. What makes you feel strong and fully alive? What lights you up and gives you energy just thinking about it? Who would you be to your village if you had one? Tapping into your strengths and engaging them is one of the greatest ways to attract the kinds of people you want into your life, bless and inspire others, and build a sense of community in ways that fill rather than drain you. Become an integral part of something. Whether it’s a knitting group, dance troupe, church, kayaking club, or homeschool collective, commit to growing community around one area of your life that enlivens you or fills a need. Use the connections you cultivate within this community to practice showing up bravely and authentically and asking for what you need, be it support, resources, or encouragement. Do your part and ONLY your part. Though it’s tempting to fill our lives to the brim with commitments that make a difference, doing so only further disempowers us. Read Essentialism if you struggle with this one. Learn self- love and self- compassion. In a culture of “never enough” it is essential that we forge healthy relationships with ourselves in order to be able to fend off the many messages hitting us about who we’re meant to be and what makes us worthy of happiness and love. In fact, I see self- love in action as the greatest gift our generation of mothers could possibly give to the mothers of tomorrow. Speak your truth. Even when you’re terrified. Even if it makes you the bravest one in the room. Imagine a new way. Where we’re headed looks nothing like where we’ve come from. Creating the kind of future we want requires envisioning that future and believing a new way to be possible. Get specific and think big. What do you want? I’ve tasted village life: During college, when my tribe of idealists and dreamers was all within walking distance and we’d yet to subscribe to “adult” social rules that told us what what was most important. I’ve never enjoyed motherhood more than those days when I knew that the needs of the children, home, and its individuals were joyfully shared among eager, loving souls. On retreat with other women, when each of us was reminded of how very similar our struggles, and how very desperate we all feel for consistent support, everyday interaction, healing, lightness, and ease. At outdoor festivals, when the village is recreated, if only for a weekend of camping, and everyone settles into a communal way, cooperative rhythm, and lighter state of being. There I witnessed, firsthand, the blessings made possible by the presence of a tribe, however disadvantaged. Ye Hai Mohabbatein - Wikipedia. Ye Hai Mohabbatein (English: This Is Love). It first aired on 3 December 2. The show was initially aired at 1. This soap opera is created by Ekta Kapoor and is produced by her production company Balaji Telefilms. Ishita Iyer, who is a Tamildentist and Raman Kumar Bhalla, who is a Punjabi. CEO. Ishita is infertile and becomes emotionally attached to Raman's daughter, Ruhi, who lives with her divorced father. Raman's ex- wife, Shagun, lives with her boyfriend Ashok Khanna and Aditya, her son with Raman. Due to circumstances, Raman and Ishita marry each other. On 9 December 2. 01. Her elder sister Vandita is married to Bala, a college lecturer and they have a son Shravan. Raman Bhalla, a rich Punjabi business man lives away from his parents Santoshi and Mr. He is divorced from his first wife(ex- wife) Shagun and has a son and daughter. His son Aditya(Adi) lives with Shagun and his daughter Ruhi lives with him. Ruhi develops a strong bond with Ishita, despite the Iyers and Bhallas having disputes everyday. Ishita had a problem because of that she will not able to conceive. Shagun lives with Ashok, Raman's ex boss and business rival. Ashok always tries to defame Raman in business. After several issues, Ishita and Raman get married for the sake of Ruhi's custody. Raman and Ishita start developing feelings for each other. Shagun feels jealous of their bond. Ruhi loves Ishita very much and considers her as best mother. Mihir, Raman's friend and Mihika, Ishita's cousin fall in love. At their engagement, Shagun is revealed to be Mihir's sister. Mihika and Mihir part ways as her family dislike Shagun. Mihika and Mihir get engaged but later separated. Mihika marries Ashok as he threatens to put Mihir in a murder case. Shagun leaves Ashok and lives in Bhalla's house with Adi. Shagun plots against Ishita to separate her from Raman using Adi. Raman and Ishita come to know about it and Raman throws Shagun out of the Bhalla house. Mihir gets married to Raman's youngest sister Rinky. Ishita's ex- fiance Subramaniam(Subbu) enters their lives to create problems between them because of a misunderstanding. Later his misunderstanding gets cleared and he goes away from their lives. After many incidents, Romi(Romesh), Raman's younger brother impregnates a girl, Sarika. They get married by Bhalla's insistence. Ashok and Mihika get divorced. Sarika is revealed to be helping Ashok and Romi divorces her. It is revealed that The child which Sarika had brought to Bhalla house telling that it is Romi's child was not Romi's child. Ashok had come to know about this truth and blackmailed Sarika because of that she helped Ashok. Raman and Ishita become best couple. Later Aditya also comes to live with Raman and Ishita. Ishita get pregnant with Raman's child but is miscarried in an accident. Shagun gets engaged to Ishita's doctor Manoj Paul. Shagun becomes surrogate mother of Raman and Ishita's child. Mr. Amaranth Chadda, a lawyer is killed by Ishita while. She unknowingly kills him while protecting his wife Pallavi and herself. Nidhi, Ishita's lawyer defends Ishita and threatens Raman to marry her. Nidhi is taking revenge from Raman for her father's death. Raman makes a plan and makes all believe Ishita dead by pushing her from cliff. Ishita returns and Shagun gives birth to a baby girl, Pihu. Nidhi kidnaps Ruhi and dies in a car blast. Raman throws Ishita out of his house because Raman thought that Ruhi died because Ishita called the police. After 7 years,Ishita lives with her friend Abhimanyu Raghav(Mani) and his niece, Aaliya in Australia. Nidhi and Ruhi are alive and Nidhi makes Ruhi to Ruhaan, popular celebrity. Ruhi hates Ishita for leaving her. Pihu looks like Ruhi at childhood. Pihu thinks Shagun and Raman are her parents. Ishita, Mani, Aliya come to India. Bhalla family comes to know that Ishita is alive. Romi and Mihika get married. They also come to know that Ruhi is alive. Ruhi shows her hatred towards Raman and Ishita. Ishita again comes to Bhalla house to convince Ruhi. Later they get succeed to convince Ruhi. Shagun gets insecure about her position in Bhalla family and starts instigating Pihu against Ishita. Pihu starts hating Ishita. Shagun gets married to Mani to get Pihu's custody. After hating each other initially Adi and Aliya fall in love with each other and get engaged. Raman and Ishita get married again. Pihu comes to know that Ishita is her real mother and Shagun is her surrogate mother but refuses to accept Ishita as her mother. Raman pretends to be angry with Ishita and goes to live with Pihu. After 1 year,Shagun lives with Mani, Aliya and Pihu in Bangkok. Shagun goes to Adelaide, Australia with Pihu. Raman, Ishita, Ruhi also go to Adelaide. Ruhi tells Pihu that Ishita is her real mother and how Raman and Ishita got married 8 years before and their sacrifices for her. Then Pihu understands Ishita and accepts Ishita as her mother. Pihu again comes to live in Bhalla house. Nidhi's brother Sohail makes Ruhi's MMS and blackmails her. Raman and Ishita had an argument regarding Sohail and Ishita leaves the house. Later Sohail goes away from her life. Ishita again returns to Bhalla house. Ishita's sister Vandita dies in a car accident made by Nidhi with Raman's car. Raman gets arrested by police and later Madhavi, Ishita's mother learns the truth. Nidhi gets jailed and Raman gets released. After some circumstances, Adi gets married to a girl Roshni in Khandpur village. He hides his marital relationship with his family and hates Roshni. Adi tells his marriage with Roshni to Romi. Romi gets Adi and Roshni divorced. Later, his family gets to know about it and Aaliya too accepts Adi's truth. Adi and Aaliya get married. Adi's marriage with Roshni is annulled. Later Adi and Aliya go for honeymoon. Sanjeeda Sheikh as Kamini Mathur. Divyanka Tripathi as Ishita Bhalla (2. Karan Patel as Raman Bhalla (2. Ruhanika Dhawan as Pihu Raman Bhalla (previously playing young Ruhi), Raman- Ishita's youngest daughter, Aditya- Ruhi's sister (2. Aditi Bhatia as Ruhi Raman Bhalla, Raman- Ishita's youngest daughter, Adi's younger sister and Pihu's elder sister (2. Abhishek Verma as Aditya Raman Bhalla Aliya's husband, Raman- Ishita's son, Ruhi's and Pihu's elder brother, (2. Krishna Mukherjee as Aliya Aditya Bhalla, Aditya's wife, Mani's niece, Mani- Shagun's adopted daughter, Ruhi- Pihu's sister- in- law, ishita's daughter, Raman- Ishita's daughter- in- law(2. Vidisha Srivastava as Roshni, Chandan's ex fianc. Subramaniam Chandran . Manoj Paul, Shagun's ex fiance (2. Left)Parveen Kaur as Dr Aditi (Psychiatrist) (2. Neel Motwani as Neel Pathak, Raman's lawyer and friend; Trisha's husband (2. Left)Garima Jain as Trisha Neel Pathak, Neel's wife (2. Deep Jaitley as Pratik, Ishita's ex fiance (2. Sareeka Dhillon as Sarika Romesh Bhalla, Romi's ex wife, Abhishek's sister (2. Left)Gaurav Nanda as Rajeev Tandon, Raman's friend (2. Left)Darshan Pandya as Prateek Sharma, Abhishek's friend (2. Left)Arshima Thapar as Sanjana, Fake sister of Mihir (2. Deepak Wadhwa as Gaurav Bajaj, Simmi's loser (2. Navina Bole as Dimple, Nikhil's sister (2. Hargun Grover as Nikhil Malhotra, Rinki's ex fiance (2. Kanisha Malhotra as ACP Shalini, Police officer, Abhishek's friend (2. Left)Ruchika Rajput as Vinnie's Mother (2. Left)Arshifa Khan as Vinnie (2. Unknown as Vinnie's Father (2. Gopal Singh as Chand Mishra, Bus driver who wanted to take revenge from Ashok (2. Left)Karishma Sharma as Raina, Bala's blackmailer (2. Avdeep Sidhu as Anil Nagpal, Raman's lawyer (2. Varun Khandelwal as Suyash Chadda, Amarnath's brother (2. Male Antagonist (left)Lalit Bisht as Amarnath Chadda, Pallavi's husband (2. Garima Kapoor as Pallavi Amarnath Chadda, Amarnath's wife, Rohit's mother (2. Manish Khanna as Shyam Raichand, Shanaya's father/Ishita's fake father (2. Zareena Roshan Khan as Ismail's mother (2. Ismail, Ishita's kidnapper (2. Sakina, Ismail's wife (2. Aashu Kohli as Malhotra (2. Benazir Shaikh as Divya, Abhishek's girlfriend (2. Special appearances. The show was first called Mera Tera Rishta Purana but later was changed to Ye Hai Mohabbatein. Cezanne Khan(who is well famous for his role of Anurag in Kasautii Zindagii Kay) was first approached to play the main lead opposite Divyanka Tripathi, but later Karan Patel was finalized to play Raman Bhalla. Ruhanika Dhawan was opted to play Ruhi Bhalla. The supporting cast was finalised with the names of Ali Goni, Shruti Bapna, Neena Kulkarni, Mihika Verma, Shireen Mirza, Shahnaz Rizwan, Sumeet Sachdev, Abhay Bhargava, Pankaj Bhatia, Gautam Ahuja amongst others. Anita Hassanandani Reddy and Sangram Singh were roped in to play the negative roles. After 7 years leap, Aditi Bhatia was finalized to play grown up Ruhi. Ruhanika Dhawan stayed back in show for playing Ishita and Raman's daughter Pihu. Abhishek Verma was finalized to play grown up Adi. Krishna Mukherjee was finalized to play Aliya who is Abhimanyu Raghav(Mani)'s niece and Adi's love interest. Reception. Starting from January 2. TRP ratings as the show's focus shifted to the new generation much to the chagrin of the loyal viewers of the show who wanted only Ish. Ra (Ishita- Raman) on screen. The show ended in January 2. TRP post the lead actress quitting the show deviating from the original. In Malayalam as Pranayam, airs on Asianet. In Telugu as Manasupalike mounageetham, airs on MAA TV but the show aired only up to 5. In Bengali as Mon Niye Kachakachi, airs on STAR Jalsha. For simplification and to avoid errors, each award in this list has been presumed to have had a prior nomination. Yeh Hai Mohabbatein News- Nidhi Try to Kill Shagun’s Baby, Ishita Saves Her. The Times of India. Retrieved 2. 01. 5- 1. Ekta’s latest show. The Telegraph. 3 December 2. Retrieved 1. 8 October 2. Articles. timesofindia. Retrieved 2. 01. 5- 1. The Times of India. Retrieved 2. 01. 5- 1. December 2. 01. 5. Retrieved 1. 9 December 2. International Business Times. Retrieved 1. 9 December 2. Bollywoodlife. com. Retrieved 1 December 2. International Business Times. Retrieved 2. 6 May 2. India Today. Retrieved 1 April 2. Bollywoodlife. com. If i cleared and get into he interview,my self kandhan, finished my post graduation in biotechnology and so and so. IPS, IFo. S,IFS, IAS are extreme powers of the administration,and using this power, to do service to mankind, with the help of politicians, and if selected as IFo. S, iam ready to serve the human and also for nature, conserving the resources, with my applied biotechnological engineering skills, preventing pouching, conserving ENVIS listed animals, plants and entire consortium, and also if govt permits, implementing various programs to young kids about to educate the importance of forest resources, and the habitat which makes them to breath easier in future.
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